Thanks for your question.
Yes, I agree the datasheet could be a little more clear on the SEL HIGH/LOW parameters.
However, I did find on the datasheet under the EC Table on page 4, it mentions under “conditions” that Vsel is set to 4V for high and 0V for low. Hope that clears things up.
In regards to Abs Max ratings, 4.5V should be fine on SEL. Just don’t surpass 6V or the device can get damaged.
If you refer to the highlighted area in the screenshot, SEL is actually pulled high using VCC and a 20.5Kohm series resistor. So tying the pin to Vcc shouldn’t be a problem. I’d also guess 4V is the minimum to pull SEL HIGH.